Coming Out

(also: coming out of the closet)

Introduction
General Information
About Me, The Author of The Transgender Dictionary
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Introduction

Coming out refers to when someone reveals that they are not cisgender and/or not heterosexual. National coming out day is October 11. Don't feel pressured to come out of the closet if you aren't ready to do so. Wait until you are able to do so safely.

This page is a work-in-progress. Despite what it may seem, there is one person working on this thing. "This thing" being The Transgender Dictionary. Well, I have a few people who help me out, but its like 90% just one person who did thing. For free. I'm not being paid for this, unless you would like to fund the transgender dictionary, in which case, feel free to do that. Otherwise, this blurb will be here until I get around to completing this page.

General Information

Coming out can be difficult for some people. Feel honored if someone comes out to you. No one knows how other people can react, only hoping to be met with love and acceptance. It is scary to have to worry if another person will object to who you are. You can't change who you are :/

If someone comes out to you, be sure to ask who it is ok to reveal this information to. Do not reveal personal information that you have been told not to tell others about. Ask for permission before telling anyone else. Even if it seems awkward. Safety can be at risk.

About Me, The Author of The Transgender Dictionary

For pronouns, I primarily use he/him pronouns in my day-to-day life. If you are going to pick a pronoun for me to stick with, refer to me with he/him. If you don't want to do that, then use xe/xem to refer to me. If you know how to be respectful about it, feel free to use it/its pronouns to refer to me. I have zero objection to being referred to as bingus/binguself. If you use any other pronouns to refer to me, I will probably not correct you, but I will not object if anyone else decides to correct you. This is because using any other pronouns to refer to me is incorrect, and I am (generally speaking) non-confrontational.

Regarding my gender identity, I identify as a genderqueer FTM man. It would also be appropriate to describe me as the following; binary male, butch, enban, endosex, masculine of center, a tranny (if you are also one), or simply as a transgender man (if you don't feel like going into detail about it).

As for medical transition, I am a pre-op salmacian. I have had a double incision mastectomy without nipple grafts on 02/07/2022. I have been taking testosterone since September 2020. First, I was on the patches, then the gel, and now SUBQ injections. In regards to my hormonal masculinization, while I was unfortunately not able to go on puberty blockers, I am 5'8 feet tall, which is a solid 3 inches taller than the height as wich I was predicted to be if you go based off the height of my parents. I've also had a salphingectomy.

As someone reading my words through the internet, you don't know exactly what I look like. That's ok. I can list some phrases that could be used to describe my gender expression. Just to help you perhaps attempt to visualize; en homme, gender bender, genderfuck, gender non-conforming, gender-variant, male impersonator, & passing. Though, if you know what I look like, there's probably no point.

This is the gender website, but here are some miscellaneous sexuality-related terms that are relevant to me, James. My name is James, by the way. My initials spell JAR. Anyways, the list follows as such; androsexual, demiromantic, demisexual, faggot, homosexual, man-loving-man, & queer.